By Shelley Anne Friend
“Children think not of what is past, nor what is to come, but enjoy the present time, which few of us do.– Jean de La Bruyère
Last year, I was chatting with my grandson, Thomas, then, age three, in San Antonio. He had just come back from visiting his cousins, who recently moved to Houston. I had seen the pictures of their beautiful home and a pretty lake and knew he loved every minute of being with them. They had a very busy weekend and it looked like a lot of fun.
However, when I was talking to Thomas, he was focused on playing with his construction toys (diggers) but I was curious about his trip. So, I asked him about how it was to see his cousins in their new home. He said, “fun.” And, he went back to the diggers.
As a person who enjoys conversation, I tried engaging him once more so I asked him if he was excited about starting his new pre-school next month. It’s at the San Antonio Zoo, which he loves, and he said, “yes.” That’s it, just “yes” and went back to his diggers.
He was living in the moment, playing with his blocks and diggers. He enjoyed the past visit with his cousins and was looking forward to the future of attending zoo school. But, he was playing mindfully, not dwelling on the past nor worrying about the future.
Immediately, I approached my daughter about how good he is at living and enjoying his life as he is experiencing it, rather than stressing out about what may or may not happen or regretting anything that didn’t happen.
I wonder, do we start out living in the “now” and turn into people who worry and have regrets? Are we taught to worry and regret? Do we observe our culture worrying and regretting and emulate that behavior?
Either way, right now, at three, Thomas is living right here, right now. It was almost like he was meditating, his connection with his world of diggers. He was mesmerized by each part and how it would work. And, I can learn a lot by watching him.
Vicki Fullerton is friend of mine who is 2017 Chairman of the Board of the Texas Association of REALTORS. Her theme this year has been “Right Here, Right Now.” It has resonated with me, and all the Texas REALTORS all year. And as Caitie Whelan from The Lightening Notes says “When something lovely happens, savor it by telling someone about it or writing about it or reliving it in your mind.” Thanks to Vicki, Caitie and Thomas, I’m doing just that.
Today’s musing: Stop and see the world from the perspective of a three year old.
“Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin.” Mother Teresa
Thomas Kessler Ojeda is four-years old. He lives in San Antonio with his parents and three dogs: Ella-Belle, Hadley and Henry. He loves to play golf, tennis, go fishing, reading stories, and riding in a big boat and anything else that involves the water. He loves playing with all his big cousins and all his friends.